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Your Relationship The
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Highly Effective Methods Intensive, Goal Directed Program Research
Based Interventions A Systematic Approach that: Reduces negative interactions and arguments
Increases control over volatile emotions
Increases Effective Communication Develops Solutions
to Longstanding Problems Recreates the Conditions for Connection
and Intimacy Learn to Bring out the Best not the Worst
in Your Partner Develops New Habits that
Will Keep These Changes Going
Making Marriage Counseling Work
One of the unique challenges to making marriage counseling work is the high level of emotion and distress most partners
come in with. For years therapists found that even though we had tons of good research, that showed us
what kinds of communication worked and what didn’t, couples tried their best to use the right words and phrases, but
in the end it just didn’t work.
What we know know is that the intense emotions
that most couples feel by the time the relationship has become problematic are powerful enough to sabotage the best attempts
at effective communication. We now know that the brains ability to generate powerful emotions , “at
the drop of a hat” will outweigh the best efforts of most people. After awhile, when the someone
trys their best and it just doesn’t work, they begin to give up. Now
we have a technology for helping people relearn these responses based on our understanding of the brain circuitry for emotion.
It’s not that hard to do if you stay with it and the results will be surprising. This is the extra piece that
can make the difference between real results and continued frustration and disappointment.
Call or Email me to set up an appointment for an initial consultation. Generally, the basic assessment takes 4 sessions, one with the two of you together, and one with each of you alone,
and the fourth session, to give you my picture of what the issues are. In that fourth session I can lay out for you
what the problems are from a therapeutic perspective, and what it will take to make real and lasting change.
At that point you can think about what I said and make a decision on whether you want to go forward.
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